Sunday, June 26, 2005
This week I would like to turn the tables
around and try something a little bit different.
Something that just might make you take a new
perspective and think about things in a way you've
never thought about them before... something that
just might stir you up enough to get you to take
some ACTION...
First, I'd like you to think about the last
time you saw a really attractive woman, you wanted
to go over and talk to her, but for whatever
reason you just didn't do it. I'm talking about a
REALLY hot one.
Take your time if you need it. I'm not going
anywhere.
Good.
Now, let me ask you something:
Did you ever stop a day or two after one of
these situations happened to think about where
that particular woman might be, and what she might
be doing?
Did you ever stop to think about what the rest
of her day was like after she walked by you?
About the ten or twenty other men that saw her
that day who didn't have the nerve to talk to
her... and the two or three that did...?
About the most-likely BORING job that she went
to, the same-old-same-old "Wow, you're beautiful"
lines that she heard from the guys who got up the
nerve to talk to her?
Did you ever consider that it might be useful
to take a little time out and consider what it
might be like to be an attractive woman, walking
through life having almost every man you see light
up with the "Whoa" look?
Hmmm...
What do you think we might be able to figure
out if we just took a few minutes to explore what
that attractive woman's PRIVATE life is like?
Here are a few things that I've come up with:
1) Most beautiful women are BORED OUT OF THEIR
MINDS by most men. One of the reasons for this is
that guys have NO IDEA what to do when they run
into an attractive woman, so they do the same
default thing: Dumb look, compliment.
2) As I've said before, and I'm sure I'll say many
many, many times in the future: You can't BORE a
woman into feeling attracted to you. If she's most
likely got a boring life like everyone else, and
you do something that every one of the other 499
guys she's going to walk by this month did, then
you're probably not going to attract any special
attention.
3) If you just start with the idea of NOT DOING
WHAT OTHER GUYS DO, you will be WAAAAYYYY ahead of
the game.
Wow, this is fun, isn't it? Bet you never
thought you'd be thinking like a woman, did ya?
So what are a few things you might do to:
1) Not be like the other 499 boring, predictable,
"nice" loser guys she encountered.
2) Be interesting, attractive and attention-getting
in a way that makes her feel like you might
actually be someone to provide her with a pinch of
spice for her life?
I thought you'd never ask...
And, as you may have already predicted, I have
a few ideas of my own (but don't let that stop you
from thinking about this on your own as often as
you get a chance).
To start with, you'd probably want to get rid
of the "Wow, you're a beautiful woman, and I'm
just an average guy admiring you" vibe. That's not
helping.
Next, you could take a moment and think about
how a guy that she would feel ATTRACTED to might
act... then choose that style.
My experience is that if you take an attitude
of "I guess fate has good taste putting us in the
same place, now let's see if you have a
personality to match your looks", then stir in a
generous portion of Cocky and Funny, you're likely
to do well.
Here's a variation of something I've used
myself once or twice:
YOU: "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?"
[leaning back and playing it cool, talking cool
and slow]
HER: "Sure"
[pause pause pause for suspense]
YOU: "Are you single?" [stone cold straight face]
HER: "Well, um..."
YOU: "I'll take that as a yes..." [nodding, sly
smile]
HER: [Laugher]
YOU: "Well, I just happen to know someone that I
think might really like you... if you're more than
just a pretty face, that is... He's funny, has
great taste, and I think you'd like him... I'd
love to sit down and get your life story, but I'm
on my way somewhere... do you have email?" [very
cool, calm tone of voice]
HER: "Yes."
YOU: Great... [takes out pen]... write it down for
me, and I'll have, uh [clears throat] HIM send you
an email."
[Get email and wish the lady a good day.]
Now, let's talk about what just happened here.
First off, did I give her any compliments? Did
I act like the other 499 guys? Did I instantly
communicate that "I'm not worthy"?
HELL NO.
I said "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?"
in a very laid-back, almost too-relaxed and
mysterious tone of voice.
Anyone will respond to that with a "yes".
Next, I did something kind of fun: I asked her
DIRECTLY if she was single.
LOL... I really love this one. It's so fun.
Most guys will say "Uh, I'll bet you have a
boyfriend, huh?" or "So do you have a man?" or
some other lame thing.
The question "Are you single?" takes women off
guard. It's great. And then being assumptive when
she hesitated with an answer... in a cocky/funny
way... magic.
Next I followed up with a cocky, funny, semi-
confusing little bit about "knowing someone" that
might find her interesting. Now, she might think
that it's really ME, but she won't know FOR SURE
until she gets the email.
And even then you might play with her a bit...
"So, what did you think of my friend? I think he
might like you..." etc.
The point is, I can pretty much guarantee you
that this particular sequence hasn't happened to
her lately.
She's still trying to overcome her sheer awe
about how many guys in a row can ask "Don't I know
you from somewhere?"
This kind of fun approach will be a welcome
breath of fresh air.
Now, I want you to do something. Go back and
READ IT AGAIN... VERY CAREFULLY. Imagine it
happening exactly like it's written. Try to
imagine it in a few different settings. Work on it
until you can clearly see it happening in your
mind's eye. (The reason I can see it clearly is
because I've done it so many times in real life!)
OK, so now you know how to approach women.
Fantastic.
I can remember when I first learned how to
start approaching women... I thought that if I
could just start conversations easily, the rest of
it would be a snap.
Well, after meeting a lot of women, but not
getting so many dates... and not having the few
dates I did get go anywhere... I realized that
there was a lot more to it.
The reality is that success with women comes
down to understanding female psychology, knowing
the entire "mating game" front to back, and then
knowing all the specific techniques and steps you
need to take at each moment with a woman.
And there's only one place in the world I know
of that you can learn all of this information
quickly, easily, and thoroughly...
And that one place is my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program.
In this program, I'll take you all the way
through all the things you need to know to be
successful with women... from theory to
practice... from nuts to bolts... from meeting to
dating, to "getting physical".
All of it.
You can check out some great free samples here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProducts.com/e/10156/AdvancedSeries/
If you haven't gotten yourself a copy of my new
Body Language DVD program... and you want to learn
how to use your body language and voice tone to
make women feel a powerful EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL
attraction for you, then you really need to get
it.
This is the only program of its type in the
world, and it will give you an education in Body
Language that will change how women respond to you
INSTANTLY.
All the details, plus some great preview video
clips are here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProducts.com/e/10156/BodyLanguage/
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
yet, then you really need to go and do that right
now. You can download it and literally be reading
it within a few minutes from right now. It's here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProducts.com/e/10156/eBook/
...and download it now. You'll be glad you did.
I'll talk to you again soon,
Your Friend
Jude
around and try something a little bit different.
Something that just might make you take a new
perspective and think about things in a way you've
never thought about them before... something that
just might stir you up enough to get you to take
some ACTION...
First, I'd like you to think about the last
time you saw a really attractive woman, you wanted
to go over and talk to her, but for whatever
reason you just didn't do it. I'm talking about a
REALLY hot one.
Take your time if you need it. I'm not going
anywhere.
Good.
Now, let me ask you something:
Did you ever stop a day or two after one of
these situations happened to think about where
that particular woman might be, and what she might
be doing?
Did you ever stop to think about what the rest
of her day was like after she walked by you?
About the ten or twenty other men that saw her
that day who didn't have the nerve to talk to
her... and the two or three that did...?
About the most-likely BORING job that she went
to, the same-old-same-old "Wow, you're beautiful"
lines that she heard from the guys who got up the
nerve to talk to her?
Did you ever consider that it might be useful
to take a little time out and consider what it
might be like to be an attractive woman, walking
through life having almost every man you see light
up with the "Whoa" look?
Hmmm...
What do you think we might be able to figure
out if we just took a few minutes to explore what
that attractive woman's PRIVATE life is like?
Here are a few things that I've come up with:
1) Most beautiful women are BORED OUT OF THEIR
MINDS by most men. One of the reasons for this is
that guys have NO IDEA what to do when they run
into an attractive woman, so they do the same
default thing: Dumb look, compliment.
2) As I've said before, and I'm sure I'll say many
many, many times in the future: You can't BORE a
woman into feeling attracted to you. If she's most
likely got a boring life like everyone else, and
you do something that every one of the other 499
guys she's going to walk by this month did, then
you're probably not going to attract any special
attention.
3) If you just start with the idea of NOT DOING
WHAT OTHER GUYS DO, you will be WAAAAYYYY ahead of
the game.
Wow, this is fun, isn't it? Bet you never
thought you'd be thinking like a woman, did ya?
So what are a few things you might do to:
1) Not be like the other 499 boring, predictable,
"nice" loser guys she encountered.
2) Be interesting, attractive and attention-getting
in a way that makes her feel like you might
actually be someone to provide her with a pinch of
spice for her life?
I thought you'd never ask...
And, as you may have already predicted, I have
a few ideas of my own (but don't let that stop you
from thinking about this on your own as often as
you get a chance).
To start with, you'd probably want to get rid
of the "Wow, you're a beautiful woman, and I'm
just an average guy admiring you" vibe. That's not
helping.
Next, you could take a moment and think about
how a guy that she would feel ATTRACTED to might
act... then choose that style.
My experience is that if you take an attitude
of "I guess fate has good taste putting us in the
same place, now let's see if you have a
personality to match your looks", then stir in a
generous portion of Cocky and Funny, you're likely
to do well.
Here's a variation of something I've used
myself once or twice:
YOU: "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?"
[leaning back and playing it cool, talking cool
and slow]
HER: "Sure"
[pause pause pause for suspense]
YOU: "Are you single?" [stone cold straight face]
HER: "Well, um..."
YOU: "I'll take that as a yes..." [nodding, sly
smile]
HER: [Laugher]
YOU: "Well, I just happen to know someone that I
think might really like you... if you're more than
just a pretty face, that is... He's funny, has
great taste, and I think you'd like him... I'd
love to sit down and get your life story, but I'm
on my way somewhere... do you have email?" [very
cool, calm tone of voice]
HER: "Yes."
YOU: Great... [takes out pen]... write it down for
me, and I'll have, uh [clears throat] HIM send you
an email."
[Get email and wish the lady a good day.]
Now, let's talk about what just happened here.
First off, did I give her any compliments? Did
I act like the other 499 guys? Did I instantly
communicate that "I'm not worthy"?
HELL NO.
I said "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?"
in a very laid-back, almost too-relaxed and
mysterious tone of voice.
Anyone will respond to that with a "yes".
Next, I did something kind of fun: I asked her
DIRECTLY if she was single.
LOL... I really love this one. It's so fun.
Most guys will say "Uh, I'll bet you have a
boyfriend, huh?" or "So do you have a man?" or
some other lame thing.
The question "Are you single?" takes women off
guard. It's great. And then being assumptive when
she hesitated with an answer... in a cocky/funny
way... magic.
Next I followed up with a cocky, funny, semi-
confusing little bit about "knowing someone" that
might find her interesting. Now, she might think
that it's really ME, but she won't know FOR SURE
until she gets the email.
And even then you might play with her a bit...
"So, what did you think of my friend? I think he
might like you..." etc.
The point is, I can pretty much guarantee you
that this particular sequence hasn't happened to
her lately.
She's still trying to overcome her sheer awe
about how many guys in a row can ask "Don't I know
you from somewhere?"
This kind of fun approach will be a welcome
breath of fresh air.
Now, I want you to do something. Go back and
READ IT AGAIN... VERY CAREFULLY. Imagine it
happening exactly like it's written. Try to
imagine it in a few different settings. Work on it
until you can clearly see it happening in your
mind's eye. (The reason I can see it clearly is
because I've done it so many times in real life!)
OK, so now you know how to approach women.
Fantastic.
I can remember when I first learned how to
start approaching women... I thought that if I
could just start conversations easily, the rest of
it would be a snap.
Well, after meeting a lot of women, but not
getting so many dates... and not having the few
dates I did get go anywhere... I realized that
there was a lot more to it.
The reality is that success with women comes
down to understanding female psychology, knowing
the entire "mating game" front to back, and then
knowing all the specific techniques and steps you
need to take at each moment with a woman.
And there's only one place in the world I know
of that you can learn all of this information
quickly, easily, and thoroughly...
And that one place is my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program.
In this program, I'll take you all the way
through all the things you need to know to be
successful with women... from theory to
practice... from nuts to bolts... from meeting to
dating, to "getting physical".
All of it.
You can check out some great free samples here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProducts.com/e/10156/AdvancedSeries/
If you haven't gotten yourself a copy of my new
Body Language DVD program... and you want to learn
how to use your body language and voice tone to
make women feel a powerful EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL
attraction for you, then you really need to get
it.
This is the only program of its type in the
world, and it will give you an education in Body
Language that will change how women respond to you
INSTANTLY.
All the details, plus some great preview video
clips are here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProducts.com/e/10156/BodyLanguage/
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
yet, then you really need to go and do that right
now. You can download it and literally be reading
it within a few minutes from right now. It's here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProducts.com/e/10156/eBook/
...and download it now. You'll be glad you did.
I'll talk to you again soon,
Your Friend
Jude
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