Thursday, July 07, 2005
EX GIRLFRIENDS
OK, so let's talk about your specific questions: 1. "How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?" I interpret her behavior as NATURAL and VERY, VERY PREDICTABLE. If you do it again in the future, the something will probably happen. Is she still interested? Yes, she is. But not in anything more than being you’re FRIEND.
You have, with your actions and communication KILLED the ATTRACTION that she felt for you. This is something you're going to have to dealWith and take responsibility for. You turned into a Wuss, and now you're paying the price. You have to come to terms with your Inner Wuss before improvement can begin. 2. "Is there - according your experience – any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?"Well, this is a sticky question.
There is a CHANCE, yes.But here's the problem. Probably 90% of the time when I tell a guy exactly what to do in order to get a girl back, he screws it up... doesn't do it exactly the way I say, etc. And, of course, he makes things worse in the process.
Here's the problem: Focusing on getting her back will not only lessen the chances, but it will keep you from moving on in your life. The best thing for you to do is MOVE ON in yourlife.Ironically, the way to give yourself the bestchances of getting her back is to NOT TRY...instead, go date other women, and be scarce in herlife.In other words, you're never going to make her feel any ATTRACTION for you again by staying inTouch, being her friend, and being "nice"... and by trying to "win her over" again. It would be nice if things worked that way, but they don't.
Now, why do guys chase women, and keep doing the WRONG things... even after a woman has left? In our dealings with women, we guys tend toThink things like "That's not fair" and "I did all the right things" and to feel self-righteous because we're the good guy... but miss the point and not get the RESULTS we want. Remember, though...Attraction isn't FAIR, it isn't "right", itDoesn’t care how "nice" you are. Attraction can be cruel and painful sometimes. You know, the irony of your situation is that this girl was probably just as bummed-out as you were about this whole thing happening. Women HATE it when guys turn into Wussies. I know, I know... she did things that made you turn into more and more of a Wuss. It's her fault too... right?
Wrong.
Women do this stuff to TEST you. They’re not actually TRYING to turn you into a Wuss. But if you DO turn into a Wuss, she realizes that she can't trust you to be a man, and she has to go. Now, she's not doing this to hurt you, she’s only doing it because she wasn't getting theFeelings that she wanted with you... and now she's getting them with Jerk-Boy. THE SOLUTION...As I mentioned your best bet in this situationis to MOVE ON. Get on with it. Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY.
Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW. And stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND. It’s obvious that the LAST thing you want is toWind up "just being friends" with her... so STOP DOING IT. Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you're leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT'S TRUE, like I said. Stop being so AVAILABLE.
Get busy enjoying your life. Get busy dating other women. If you find yourself thinking about her andWanting to hear her voice, BITCH-SLAP yourself. If you're feeling weak, have a friend do it. And when you do wind up talking to her, say the following: "Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do... I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday..." You feel me, dog? And remember...In this world, "I was a nice guy and did nice things for her" doesn't cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules... and exceptions. and if you want to get and keep an attractiveWoman, then you'd better learn them. It’s a skill, and you're not going to get it by being "nice" and doing everything your mom taughtYou...If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she'll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN'T feel it, then the chances are slim that she'll stay around. These rules are even MORE TRUE when you're dealing with an ATTRACTIVE woman who gets a lot of attention from guys. The irony of this situation is that I think it's a lot easier to make a woman feel ATTRACTION than it is to be a Wuss who chases after her, buys her things, and annoys the hell out of her.
I spent a lot of years of my life being a Wuss.I made all the classic mistakes. I should probably be awarded an honorary degree in the subject, actually. But over the last several years I've not only learned how to cure myself and evict my Inner Wuss... I've also learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION with my body language and communicationAlone. I only wish someone would have shown me thisstuff fifteen years ago...If you're reading this right now and it's time that you evicted your inner Wussy, and learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you without chasing them, buying them things, and giving all of your power away, then listen up... THE TIME IS NOW. This stuff isn't going to fix itself. And you know by now that more of the same is only going to get you more of the same.
If you need a WORLD-CLASS de-Wuss-ification, then you need my industrial-strength solution... My 12-hour Advanced Dating Techniques programs the ultimate training on how to be successful with women and dating. It comes on either digital CD audio or DVD video, and it will absolutely blow your mind.
It has taken me literally YEARS of time, energy, research, and effort to figure all of this stuff out... For every one secret, concept, or technique that I teach in this program, I've probably tried ten or twenty others that didn't work... In other words, this stuff is the real deal. It’s me, personally teaching all of the very best secrets, concepts, and specific step-by-step techniques for meeting and dating women that IPersonally use in real-world situations. The best part? You can order it at ZERO RISK. This program (and the two others below) are available for a FREE TRIAL. Try them out at no cost. Use the concepts.
If you don't see results IMMEDIATELY, then just send it back... it's that easy. Get it here: www.Kalmax.blogspot.comIf you've already gone through my Advanced Dating Techniques program, and you want to learn specialized techniques for sparking attraction and amplifying it using your communication, then you MUST get your hands on my new Sexual Communication 2nd Edition (finally available in DVD video format). It's brand new, and I want you to go watch some of the great preview video clips for it... right here:
You’re Friend Jude
OK, so let's talk about your specific questions: 1. "How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?" I interpret her behavior as NATURAL and VERY, VERY PREDICTABLE. If you do it again in the future, the something will probably happen. Is she still interested? Yes, she is. But not in anything more than being you’re FRIEND.
You have, with your actions and communication KILLED the ATTRACTION that she felt for you. This is something you're going to have to dealWith and take responsibility for. You turned into a Wuss, and now you're paying the price. You have to come to terms with your Inner Wuss before improvement can begin. 2. "Is there - according your experience – any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?"Well, this is a sticky question.
There is a CHANCE, yes.But here's the problem. Probably 90% of the time when I tell a guy exactly what to do in order to get a girl back, he screws it up... doesn't do it exactly the way I say, etc. And, of course, he makes things worse in the process.
Here's the problem: Focusing on getting her back will not only lessen the chances, but it will keep you from moving on in your life. The best thing for you to do is MOVE ON in yourlife.Ironically, the way to give yourself the bestchances of getting her back is to NOT TRY...instead, go date other women, and be scarce in herlife.In other words, you're never going to make her feel any ATTRACTION for you again by staying inTouch, being her friend, and being "nice"... and by trying to "win her over" again. It would be nice if things worked that way, but they don't.
Now, why do guys chase women, and keep doing the WRONG things... even after a woman has left? In our dealings with women, we guys tend toThink things like "That's not fair" and "I did all the right things" and to feel self-righteous because we're the good guy... but miss the point and not get the RESULTS we want. Remember, though...Attraction isn't FAIR, it isn't "right", itDoesn’t care how "nice" you are. Attraction can be cruel and painful sometimes. You know, the irony of your situation is that this girl was probably just as bummed-out as you were about this whole thing happening. Women HATE it when guys turn into Wussies. I know, I know... she did things that made you turn into more and more of a Wuss. It's her fault too... right?
Wrong.
Women do this stuff to TEST you. They’re not actually TRYING to turn you into a Wuss. But if you DO turn into a Wuss, she realizes that she can't trust you to be a man, and she has to go. Now, she's not doing this to hurt you, she’s only doing it because she wasn't getting theFeelings that she wanted with you... and now she's getting them with Jerk-Boy. THE SOLUTION...As I mentioned your best bet in this situationis to MOVE ON. Get on with it. Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY.
Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW. And stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND. It’s obvious that the LAST thing you want is toWind up "just being friends" with her... so STOP DOING IT. Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you're leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT'S TRUE, like I said. Stop being so AVAILABLE.
Get busy enjoying your life. Get busy dating other women. If you find yourself thinking about her andWanting to hear her voice, BITCH-SLAP yourself. If you're feeling weak, have a friend do it. And when you do wind up talking to her, say the following: "Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do... I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday..." You feel me, dog? And remember...In this world, "I was a nice guy and did nice things for her" doesn't cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules... and exceptions. and if you want to get and keep an attractiveWoman, then you'd better learn them. It’s a skill, and you're not going to get it by being "nice" and doing everything your mom taughtYou...If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she'll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN'T feel it, then the chances are slim that she'll stay around. These rules are even MORE TRUE when you're dealing with an ATTRACTIVE woman who gets a lot of attention from guys. The irony of this situation is that I think it's a lot easier to make a woman feel ATTRACTION than it is to be a Wuss who chases after her, buys her things, and annoys the hell out of her.
I spent a lot of years of my life being a Wuss.I made all the classic mistakes. I should probably be awarded an honorary degree in the subject, actually. But over the last several years I've not only learned how to cure myself and evict my Inner Wuss... I've also learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION with my body language and communicationAlone. I only wish someone would have shown me thisstuff fifteen years ago...If you're reading this right now and it's time that you evicted your inner Wussy, and learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you without chasing them, buying them things, and giving all of your power away, then listen up... THE TIME IS NOW. This stuff isn't going to fix itself. And you know by now that more of the same is only going to get you more of the same.
If you need a WORLD-CLASS de-Wuss-ification, then you need my industrial-strength solution... My 12-hour Advanced Dating Techniques programs the ultimate training on how to be successful with women and dating. It comes on either digital CD audio or DVD video, and it will absolutely blow your mind.
It has taken me literally YEARS of time, energy, research, and effort to figure all of this stuff out... For every one secret, concept, or technique that I teach in this program, I've probably tried ten or twenty others that didn't work... In other words, this stuff is the real deal. It’s me, personally teaching all of the very best secrets, concepts, and specific step-by-step techniques for meeting and dating women that IPersonally use in real-world situations. The best part? You can order it at ZERO RISK. This program (and the two others below) are available for a FREE TRIAL. Try them out at no cost. Use the concepts.
If you don't see results IMMEDIATELY, then just send it back... it's that easy. Get it here: www.Kalmax.blogspot.comIf you've already gone through my Advanced Dating Techniques program, and you want to learn specialized techniques for sparking attraction and amplifying it using your communication, then you MUST get your hands on my new Sexual Communication 2nd Edition (finally available in DVD video format). It's brand new, and I want you to go watch some of the great preview video clips for it... right here:
You’re Friend Jude
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