Thursday, August 04, 2005
I have a question for you.
What do you REALLY WANT when it comes to the area of your life called "Women and Dating"?Could you explain it to me if I called you upon the phone in 5 minutes and asked you?In other words, do you REALLY, REALLY know just what it is that you're looking for? If you're like most guys that I talk to, you probably couldn't tell me. Or if you did tell me, it would be clear that you hadn't taken any real time to think about it before I asked you.Now, before I tell you why this is a problem, I have to confess something to you... It wasn't very long ago that I used to be in exactly the same boat.I had NO IDEA what I was looking for.It was only after a LOT of trial and error, dating crazy women that made my life impossible, and chasing my tail that I finally figured out what it was that I REALLY wanted.And once I figured it out, I realize that I wasn't alone. As it turns out, I think that MOST guys want what I want when it comes to "women and dating", but they just haven't thought about it long enough to be able to say it. I think that what 90% of men are looking for is a GREAT long-term relationship with a GREAT woman. What do I mean when I use the term "Great Woman"? I mean a woman who is naturally beautiful, who takes care of herself physically, who is emotionally and financially stable... who doesn't "need" you, but "wants" you, who can take care of herself in every way......you know what I'm saying here. But guess what? Women like this are VERY rare. I mean like one in a thousand or so. And they are NEVER at a loss for a date. I digress... but I'll come back to this later. Earlier I mentioned that it is a problem thatMen don't KNOW what they want. Now I want to talk about WHY it's such a big problem.
There are two main reasons:
1) Not knowing what you want, lowers the chances
of GETTING what you want.
2) In this particular situation, when it comes to
this type of woman, not understanding what you
want makes your chances of getting one almost
ZERO.
Let's talk about these two issues.
NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT LOWERS YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING IT
If you've read any "self help" books at all,then you know that it's important to set goals in your life.
Why?
Because setting goals makes your mind work on getting them.
When you think through your goals, and take the time to figure them out, write them down, and make plans to get them, you put a set of processes in motion that dramatically increase your chance of getting what you want.
If you don't know what I'm talking about, go read "Think And Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill.
Just do it.
NOT UNDERSTANDING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF WOMAN MAKES YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING ONE ALMOST ZERO
This is the big issue here.This is the one that most guys just don't get...and the one that, by itself, really leads to failure.The fact is that most guys would really like to
meet a great girl.The times in my life when I've had an amazing woman as my girlfriend have been FANTASTIC.There is nothing quite like having a stunning,intelligent, well-dressed, interesting woman in your life. Nothing.Now, I get a lot of guys who write to me and say things like:
"David, I don't want to have to learn any of the things you teach. I want a woman to like me forwho I am..."
...and...
"The kind of woman that I want to find would notrespond to the things you teach... she would see me for the person that I am..."...and a million other things. I can identify with this stuff. I spent many years of my life thinking this way.
In fact, I spent so much time thinking this way and getting horrible results, that I am probably the world's leading expert on it.
I just wanted a woman to "see me for who I was" and who saw past all of my flaws and wanted to be with me for me.
I hated the idea of trying to change myself.
But here's the deal:
An exceptional woman has OPTIONS. The kind of woman that I described is approached by men ALL THE TIME.
My estimate is that a beautiful, successful, intelligent woman is approached by men an average of 5 or 10 times A DAY.
To put it another way, if you meet a really interesting, exceptional woman, you can bet that she has been approached between 150 and 300 times in the past month ALONE.
Think about that.
Imagine what it must be like to be a woman who is approached so often. Even if she WANTED to spend time with many of the men, there would be no way to do it.
It's just not practical. So what's a girl to do?
The only thing that an exceptional girl CAN do is use TIME MANAGEMENT principals. She has to decide almost INSTANTLY if a guy is "worth" spending more time with.
And she has to make her decision based on very little information. AND, she can't make the mistake of being "too friendly" and giving a guy the "wrong idea"...because if she does, he'll probably call her 100 times over the next month.
Unusually attractive, exceptional women become
very good at ELIMINATING men based on very little
information.If you're a man who hasn't made it a goal to
attract one of these women, who doesn't understand this particular fact, and who doesn't understand how to get past this initial "test", then your chances of attracting one of these women is as close to zero as anything is in the world.
The REALITY of this situation is that you are not the only guy in the world who wants a woman like this.
EVERY guy would like to meet her. There are a lot of guys out there that are willing to call her more, spend more money on her, do more things for her, and pay her more attention than you...
You can't get a girl like this one by doing the "normal" things.
And here's the KICKER...The next girl you date probably isn't going to be this girl. In fact, you're probably going to need to go out with MANY women before you're going to run into one of these rare women.But as they say, "Every cloud has a silver lining".
And this cloud does.
The fact is that spending time dating other women is EXACTLY what will TEACH you how toattract one of these exceptional women.
You HAVE to do it. So let's wrap this up.First, take some time and figure out what it is that you want.
Write it down, and make a list. What are the physical, intellectual, and emotional qualities that you're looking for? Be specific, and get a clear picture in your mind.
Next, become the guy that she'll feel ATTRACTION for when you meet her.There are two parts to this one.
The first part is preparing yourself to date many women to find her... and then getting out there and doing it.
The second (and most important) part is to LEARN what you need to do in order to be the guy that she'll be attracted to.
It's not luck. What's the best way to learn?
I'm so glad you asked...As it turns out, I've spent the last five years of my life on this.
And I've taken what I've learned and created the best products available to teach you all the things you need to learn in order to be successful with women and dating.
This program is only for guys who REALLY want to invest in themselves, and who want to do what it takes to become GREAT with women.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
Jude
P.S. Make sure you check out my newest program:
"Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs". This entire
program is focused on helping you with the
specific skills and techniques you need to quickly
and easily approach women, start conversations,
and get numbers and dates... all in the Bar & Club
environment.
1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs
max.
2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask
your question. I appreciate all of the "Your
stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how
well your stuff works" comments, but the fact is
that I DO need to hear all of the specifics...
because this helps other guys to see what's
working in different situations.
3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success
Story" in the subject line of the email. I read
these first.
4) At the end of the email, give me your initials
and tell me where you're from.
5) Send it to me at:
Kalmax.4t.com
don't just hit "reply" to this email.
Thanks!
What do you REALLY WANT when it comes to the area of your life called "Women and Dating"?Could you explain it to me if I called you upon the phone in 5 minutes and asked you?In other words, do you REALLY, REALLY know just what it is that you're looking for? If you're like most guys that I talk to, you probably couldn't tell me. Or if you did tell me, it would be clear that you hadn't taken any real time to think about it before I asked you.Now, before I tell you why this is a problem, I have to confess something to you... It wasn't very long ago that I used to be in exactly the same boat.I had NO IDEA what I was looking for.It was only after a LOT of trial and error, dating crazy women that made my life impossible, and chasing my tail that I finally figured out what it was that I REALLY wanted.And once I figured it out, I realize that I wasn't alone. As it turns out, I think that MOST guys want what I want when it comes to "women and dating", but they just haven't thought about it long enough to be able to say it. I think that what 90% of men are looking for is a GREAT long-term relationship with a GREAT woman. What do I mean when I use the term "Great Woman"? I mean a woman who is naturally beautiful, who takes care of herself physically, who is emotionally and financially stable... who doesn't "need" you, but "wants" you, who can take care of herself in every way......you know what I'm saying here. But guess what? Women like this are VERY rare. I mean like one in a thousand or so. And they are NEVER at a loss for a date. I digress... but I'll come back to this later. Earlier I mentioned that it is a problem thatMen don't KNOW what they want. Now I want to talk about WHY it's such a big problem.
There are two main reasons:
1) Not knowing what you want, lowers the chances
of GETTING what you want.
2) In this particular situation, when it comes to
this type of woman, not understanding what you
want makes your chances of getting one almost
ZERO.
Let's talk about these two issues.
NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT LOWERS YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING IT
If you've read any "self help" books at all,then you know that it's important to set goals in your life.
Why?
Because setting goals makes your mind work on getting them.
When you think through your goals, and take the time to figure them out, write them down, and make plans to get them, you put a set of processes in motion that dramatically increase your chance of getting what you want.
If you don't know what I'm talking about, go read "Think And Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill.
Just do it.
NOT UNDERSTANDING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF WOMAN MAKES YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING ONE ALMOST ZERO
This is the big issue here.This is the one that most guys just don't get...and the one that, by itself, really leads to failure.The fact is that most guys would really like to
meet a great girl.The times in my life when I've had an amazing woman as my girlfriend have been FANTASTIC.There is nothing quite like having a stunning,intelligent, well-dressed, interesting woman in your life. Nothing.Now, I get a lot of guys who write to me and say things like:
"David, I don't want to have to learn any of the things you teach. I want a woman to like me forwho I am..."
...and...
"The kind of woman that I want to find would notrespond to the things you teach... she would see me for the person that I am..."...and a million other things. I can identify with this stuff. I spent many years of my life thinking this way.
In fact, I spent so much time thinking this way and getting horrible results, that I am probably the world's leading expert on it.
I just wanted a woman to "see me for who I was" and who saw past all of my flaws and wanted to be with me for me.
I hated the idea of trying to change myself.
But here's the deal:
An exceptional woman has OPTIONS. The kind of woman that I described is approached by men ALL THE TIME.
My estimate is that a beautiful, successful, intelligent woman is approached by men an average of 5 or 10 times A DAY.
To put it another way, if you meet a really interesting, exceptional woman, you can bet that she has been approached between 150 and 300 times in the past month ALONE.
Think about that.
Imagine what it must be like to be a woman who is approached so often. Even if she WANTED to spend time with many of the men, there would be no way to do it.
It's just not practical. So what's a girl to do?
The only thing that an exceptional girl CAN do is use TIME MANAGEMENT principals. She has to decide almost INSTANTLY if a guy is "worth" spending more time with.
And she has to make her decision based on very little information. AND, she can't make the mistake of being "too friendly" and giving a guy the "wrong idea"...because if she does, he'll probably call her 100 times over the next month.
Unusually attractive, exceptional women become
very good at ELIMINATING men based on very little
information.If you're a man who hasn't made it a goal to
attract one of these women, who doesn't understand this particular fact, and who doesn't understand how to get past this initial "test", then your chances of attracting one of these women is as close to zero as anything is in the world.
The REALITY of this situation is that you are not the only guy in the world who wants a woman like this.
EVERY guy would like to meet her. There are a lot of guys out there that are willing to call her more, spend more money on her, do more things for her, and pay her more attention than you...
You can't get a girl like this one by doing the "normal" things.
And here's the KICKER...The next girl you date probably isn't going to be this girl. In fact, you're probably going to need to go out with MANY women before you're going to run into one of these rare women.But as they say, "Every cloud has a silver lining".
And this cloud does.
The fact is that spending time dating other women is EXACTLY what will TEACH you how toattract one of these exceptional women.
You HAVE to do it. So let's wrap this up.First, take some time and figure out what it is that you want.
Write it down, and make a list. What are the physical, intellectual, and emotional qualities that you're looking for? Be specific, and get a clear picture in your mind.
Next, become the guy that she'll feel ATTRACTION for when you meet her.There are two parts to this one.
The first part is preparing yourself to date many women to find her... and then getting out there and doing it.
The second (and most important) part is to LEARN what you need to do in order to be the guy that she'll be attracted to.
It's not luck. What's the best way to learn?
I'm so glad you asked...As it turns out, I've spent the last five years of my life on this.
And I've taken what I've learned and created the best products available to teach you all the things you need to learn in order to be successful with women and dating.
This program is only for guys who REALLY want to invest in themselves, and who want to do what it takes to become GREAT with women.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
Jude
P.S. Make sure you check out my newest program:
"Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs". This entire
program is focused on helping you with the
specific skills and techniques you need to quickly
and easily approach women, start conversations,
and get numbers and dates... all in the Bar & Club
environment.
1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs
max.
2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask
your question. I appreciate all of the "Your
stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how
well your stuff works" comments, but the fact is
that I DO need to hear all of the specifics...
because this helps other guys to see what's
working in different situations.
3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success
Story" in the subject line of the email. I read
these first.
4) At the end of the email, give me your initials
and tell me where you're from.
5) Send it to me at:
Kalmax.4t.com
don't just hit "reply" to this email.
Thanks!
# posted by Kalmax @ 4:03 PM 
